DEALING WITH FAITHFULNESS AND UNFAITHFULNESS IN MARRAIGE
Faithfulness could be defined as loyalty or ability to be trusted.
(a)It is a requirement for all Christians.
Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.
(b) Faithfulness could also be said to be the cornerstone of the character of a person.
(c) It is a pattern which is seen in relation to God, church work/activities, friends and secular work.
(d) Unfaithfulness in one area of life may be indicative of possible unfaithfulness in the others.
CIRCUMSTANCES THAT WILL TEST FAITHFULNESS
(d) Sudden prosperity.
(f) Long seperation.
(g) Old age (menopause etc.).
If you find yourself in any of these circumstances you must be on high alert for temptations to be unfaithful.
Some High Risk Jobs
(a) Airline Workers.
(d) Long-distance drivers.
Conditions That Are Likely to Aggravate Potential for Unfaithfulness
Unfaithfulness or infidelity is sin. It normally has the end result of adultery, through, it starts in seemingly harmless ways like spending more time with someone who is not your spouse. The following may however act as catalysts to this phenomenon, which is more of a problem of the heart:
(a) Becoming unattractive.
(b) Not caring about things like one’s weight, looks, and interest in sex.
(c) General loss of interest in dressing, hair and indeed the general appearance.
(d) Infrequent sexual intercourse between a couple.
(e) Lack of communication.
(f) Lack of fellowship.
(g) Failure to develop an interest in sexual activity.
(h) Failure to sustain interest in one another.
(i) Fortnight marriages- couple come together only fortnightly.
(j) Failure to share the same bedroom.
(k) Trekking jobs.
(l) Turning down your spouse’s sexual advances frequently.
(m) Unhealthy work circumstances e.g. a male and female working closely together in the same room for long hours.
*Travelling/trekking together and staying in the same hotel.
* Going on long courses abroad and short business trips.
* Holding meetings in hotel rooms.
How to Fostet Faithfulness in Marriage
(a) Fear God and be obedient to His Word.
(b) Be prayerful (both of you).
(c) Be active in all church activities.
(d) Avoid developing close relationship with others of the opposite sex.
(e) Have mutual friends. Don’t have friends that are not friends of your partner.
(f) Concerning the issue of childlessness, remember that your partner will be what God wants him/her to be.
And Jacob’s anger was kindled against Rachel: and he said, Am I in God’s stead, who hath withheld from thee the fruit of the womb?
(g) Wear your wedding rings always.
(h) Talk positively about your spouse.
(i) Sit by your spouse in church.
(j) Be sexually active and infuse some variety and excitement into the marriage.
(k) In addition to the above, find solution to the causes of unfaithfulness stated in the paragraph preceding this one. Hope this material had been a blessing, please drop a comment or prayer request.